How to Stop the War Against Yourself | Tara Brach
10% Happier with Dan Harris
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4.6 • 12.9K Ratings
🗓️ 14 December 2022
⏱️ 77 minutes
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It's possible to actually be addicted to self-criticism, especially as a way to keep yourself safe. But evidence shows that's not true, and today's episode dives into strategies to deal with your own self-hatred.
This is part two of a series this week on forgiveness. In our last episode, Jack Kornfield focused on forgiving other people and in today's episode, Tara Brach talks about forgiving yourself.
Tara Brach is a meditation teacher, psychologist and author of several books including Radical Acceptance, Radical Compassion and Trusting the Gold. Her weekly podcast is downloaded 3 million times a month. Tara is also the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington.
In this episode we talk about:
- Why Tara says self-hatred "divides us from our ourselves"
- The benefits of learning the habit to stop kicking our own asses
- Simple meditations to help us with self-forgiveness
- Questions that can help us understand what really matters to us, and what we really want
- The power of seeing the profundity in mundane experiences
- A refresher on a fan favorite meditation technique: RAIN
- How to start trusting reality more than we believe the beliefs about ourselves
- Forgiveness vs accountability
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| 0:00.0 | This is the 10% happier podcast. |
| 0:06.2 | I'm Dan Harris. |
| 0:11.0 | Hello everybody. |
| 0:12.2 | Our guest today makes an interesting point, a really interesting point that you may |
| 0:16.4 | actually be addicted to self criticism, to kicking your own ass. |
| 0:21.7 | And she has tons of ideas for kicking the habit. |
| 0:25.6 | Many of us think self criticism is necessary because it keeps us safe that we would |
| 0:29.9 | lose our edge without it. |
| 0:31.3 | But the evidence shows this is not true. |
| 0:34.0 | So today we're going to take a deep dive into some wiser strategies. |
| 0:38.3 | My guest is a frequent flyer on the show. |
| 0:41.0 | Tara Brock is a meditation teacher, psychologist and author of several books, including radical |
| 0:46.2 | acceptance, radical compassion and trusting the gold. |
| 0:50.4 | Her weekly podcast is downloaded three million times a month. |
| 0:54.7 | Tara is also the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington. |
| 0:58.9 | In this conversation we talked about, why she says self hatred divides us from ourselves, |
| 1:04.9 | the benefits of learning to stop kicking your own ass, simple meditations to help us |
| 1:10.0 | with self forgiveness, some compelling, get jarring questions that can help us understand |
| 1:14.9 | what really matters to us, what we actually want, the power of seeing the profundity in |
| 1:20.2 | mundane experiences, a refresher on a fan favorite meditation technique called Rain, |
| 1:27.0 | how to start trusting reality more than we believe the things we're telling ourselves |
| 1:31.9 | about ourselves, forgiveness versus accountability, what's the difference there? |
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