How To Stop Replaying Conversations In Your Head

Authentic Confidence with Dr. Aziz

Dr. Aziz Gazipura, Psychologist and Author

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Education

4.8 • 666 Ratings

🗓️ 9 March 2016

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

Discover Why You Do It…And How To Stop Once And For All

Have you ever replayed a conversation in your head? How about 25 times after you got rejected?

This painful pattern is something we all can relate to. Join Dr. Aziz in this insightful episode as he shows us why we do this in the first place. He then goes on to provide actionable strategies and techniques to let go of insecurity and embarrassment, replacing it with relaxed confidence and humor.

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0:00.0	Do you replay conversations in your head? Do you think about them afterwards and imagine what you
0:06.5	said and if it was good enough, how the other person responded, what they were really thinking
0:11.4	of you? Does it leave you feeling tense and worried and stressed and just take the joy out of that
0:17.1	conversation and maybe even makes you worried about your next conversation coming up.
0:21.9	If so, you're going to learn how to shift that in today's episode.
0:25.6	You're going to learn how to break free and how to stop replaying conversations in your head once
0:31.5	and for all.
0:34.3	Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon, welcome to shrink for the shy guy, helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination with your host, Dr. Aziz.
0:51.3	Hey-oh, welcome to today's episode of this show. I'm your host, Dr. Aziz. I'm excited to be with you here today because we're going to be talking about something that tripped me up for years. I mean, pretty much most of the time I was really stuck in shyness and social anxiety. I was doing this all the time. And many of the clients that I
1:12.5	talked to describe to me how they will replay conversations in their head after they have them.
1:19.0	It's hard to let it go. Have you ever had that experience? You leave any situation. It could be a
1:24.4	party or a gathering or a day at work or going out to dinner with your
1:29.3	girlfriend's parents or friends or any situation whatsoever where you've had a conversation with
1:34.7	someone. And then you leave and your mind just starts just grinding away on it. You start replaying
1:43.9	elements of the conversation. When you said this,
1:47.0	when they said that, when you said this and then they said that in response and it didn't go very well.
1:52.6	And what's often happening is where maybe sometimes you're replaying the glory moments of the
1:58.5	conversation, the moment where you had everyone laughing and you were the
2:02.7	man. But that's not really the case, right? Usually we're replaying the tense moments,
2:09.2	the awkward moments, the uncomfortable moment. They're just replaying it again and again and again.
2:14.4	And each time it feels uncomfortable, you feel embarrassed, you feel insecure.
2:20.5	What's going on here? Why do we do that? And ultimately, more importantly, how do we shift it?
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