Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so,

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you're interested in, hit that subscribe button. Today, I'm going to be talking to you about how

to stop being a people pleaser and how to actually start setting authentic boundaries

in your life so that you can regain your own confidence.

So let's dive in. Let's talk about people pleasing. First off, let's really start to define what

people pleasing is. People pleasing is basically an adaptive behavior where people prioritize

the needs of other people, the desires of other people, the approval of others

over their own. And so they put everybody else first and they put themselves last. The core of it

is a strong desire more than anything else to just be accepted by other people. And this in turn

leads to actions that are more about making other people happy

than about fulfilling your own personal needs, your own personal desires, and just throwing yourself

at the back. And it's really about making other people happy or what you think will make other

people happy and just ignore your own needs. And so let's immediately go to where

does people pleasing start? Well, you guessed it, just as everything we basically talk about in

this podcast, almost always starts in the childhood, right? People Pleasin often starts in childhood

and kids learn from early ages that certain behaviors get them praise from their parents,

certain behaviors get them the exact opposite from their parents.

And sometimes they get praise from their teachers and sometimes they get reprimanded from their teachers.

And so, you know, certain behaviors will get us praise when we're younger and certain behaviors will get us reprimanded. And once again,

if you have children, if you want children, what it's really important to understand is that all

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