You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships. I'm your host

relationship coach Stephanie Rigg and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode we're talking

about how to stop the endless cycles of obsessing and ruminating about

someone or something. So if you're someone with anxious attachment or any sort of level of anxiety which I think

will capture a significant chunk of my listeners I think this is going to be a really helpful

episode. I'm going to be sharing a few reframes and techniques, things that I use

regularly that allow me to feel free from the thoughts that's been around in my head.

And I think that the more we can release ourselves from this attachment to our thoughts as truth, The more peace we have in our lives, the more control we have over our

emotions and the way that we respond and react to things in our lives, it is an incredibly valuable thing to practice and hone our capacity for,

observing our thoughts, being the witness of our thoughts rather than experiencing them as true and all-encompassing. So often I hear from people who more or less feel

like their thoughts are in control and they are at the mercy of them.

This sense of, I can't, I can't do anything about it, I can't help it,

feeling like a really helpless victim of their own thoughts,

almost like they're imprisoned by their thoughts.

And I think that's a very common experience and one that can really

create a lot of suffering in our lives and so today's episode I'm going to be sharing a few different ways

that you can interrupt those cycles and really step into a more

empowered place, one of an agency where you are the observer of your thoughts and you don't have to pay so much attention to them.

And it doesn't feel like your thoughts are running the show, which I think is very liberating to reach a place where you can watch your thoughts float by like a cloud in the sky rather than feeling like it's this big heavy true thing that you have to obsess on.

And particularly I think when you're obsessing about someone else,

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