Welcome back, my friend to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes. And if you are sick and

tired of letting people walk all over you and feeling disrespected, then this is for you. And you know why

people walk all over you? Well, it's not because they're stronger than you. It's because you

haven't set the rules. The rules matter. And here's the truth. Respect doesn't come from being liked.

It comes from showing people how to treat you. That's right. And I used to get this wrong all the time.

I used to love everyone to like me and be happy with me all the time. And that's where I failed

every day. I thought if I said yes to everyone, if I helped everyone constantly,

and if I avoided conflict, if I kept everyone happy and keep the peace around me,

then I would earn their respect.

But, unfortunately, the opposite happened to me. The more I tried to please people, the more I tried to make everyone happy, the more I tried

to get everyone to like me and be their friend, the less people valued me.

So what changed?

Well, I built habits that protected my boundaries. And the moment I did, people started treating me

differently. In this episode, I'm going to be sharing the five strategies that helped me stop being

walked on and will help you earn real respect also. And again, if you feel like you are sick and tired of not feeling peace with the

people around you, it's probably because you try to make everyone like you, love you, respect you,

but you've been doing it the wrong way. And the first strategy to this process is to own your

no. Own your no. Most people are afraid of saying no,

but this is what you need to step into. If you can't say no, your yes means nothing. Now,

boundaries aren't walls to keep people out. They're gates to protect what matters most. And the difference

between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to

almost everything. I love this quote from Warren Buffett. And I used to think saying no would make

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