How To STOP F*cking FIGHTING, Communicate BETTER, & Make Your Relationship LAST | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu

Tom Bilyeu's Impact Theory

Impact Theory

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🗓️ 20 February 2023

⏱️ 109 minutes

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There are few things in life more special than experiencing a lifelong love with a partner that you can grow and evolve with through anything. How can you create that experience with so many complexities and confusion around how to come together and get on the same page? Tom Bilyeu is not only a co-founder of Quest Nutrition, he’s also the co-founder and business partner of Impact Theory alongside Lisa Bilyeu. They’ve officially passed 20 years of marriage, of navigating each other’s identities, ambitions and health scares and come from zero to a billion and are still going? Relationships are hard enough without the addition of outside stress and pressure, but you’ve figured that out. So, then what has Tom and Lisa figured out over 20 years that’s helped them survive their toughest year together? 2022 was a year that would have broken most relationships and this episode is a candid look into the level of communication and commitment that Tom and Lisa have developed through the years. Relationship takeaways from this episode: Have a shared vision of the future you can move towards together Majority of relationship problems are a frame of reference problem There’s often an insecurity at the base of your anger, know what it is to resolve conflict Emotions feel like fact, proceed with caution Write down 5-10 values in every area of your life in a single sentence and order them. Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsors: Get $500 off Peloton Tread Packages that come with accessories like a heart rate band, workout mat and non-slip dumbbells. Just go to onepeleton.com to get the deal. Visit http://www.houseofmacadmais.com/impact and use code impact for 20% OFF your first purchase! For listeners of the show, Calm is offering an exclusive offer of 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at http://www.calm.com/impact. Head over to http://www.mindpumpimpact.com to find the 5 most impactful Mind Pump fitness episodes that will transform your body and your life. Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you. Want to transform your health, sharpen your mindset, improve your relationship, or conquer the business world? This is your epicenter of greatness. This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. Subscription Benefits: Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more: Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement Money Mindset: Business & Finance Relationship Theory: Relationships Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What's up, guys? I am beyond excited for this episode with my incredible wife, Lisa Bill
0:05.4	you. Besides being my number one, Lisa is also my business partner and the host of Women of Impact.
0:12.3	I joined Lisa on Women of Impact for this incredible episode to reflect on how even after 20 years of
0:18.2	marriage, 22 is actually one of the most challenging years we ever face together.
0:23.2	We share in this episode why we have been able to survive that kind of pressure, the kind of
0:27.7	pressure that would break up most couples. I hope you guys enjoy listening to this episode as much
0:32.3	as we did recording it. And if you do, please leave a review on the podcast. It really is the best way to support us so
0:39.2	that we can help more people just like you reach their full potential. I'm Tom Bill you and welcome
0:44.4	to Impact Theory. There is nothing better that life has to offer you than a shared life. And this is
0:51.9	the modern dating crisis. It's easy to be in something when it's
0:57.7	just fun in games. But it becomes harder to be in something when the times are hard.
1:08.0	We were trying to boil a relationship down to the fewest number of big ideas.
1:14.6	Because you can get lost.
1:15.6	Like there's so many things.
1:16.6	Like, as you're really trying to like communicate to somebody, oh, navigate this way
1:20.6	and rules of engagement, ah, like you can really go down a rabbit hole.
1:24.6	But when we were doing the exercise of like, what are the fewest things?
1:30.6	We came up with our list and it was, I think, four things. And I was like,
1:38.3	there's something that's missing. And commitment was the final thing that felt like it deserved its own bucket. And it has played out to be an incredibly powerful idea, which is it's easy to be in something when it's
1:48.5	just fun in games. But it becomes harder to be in something when the times are hard. And if you
1:55.7	don't have a value intrinsically, it can't be externally put on you, if you don't have a value
2:00.5	inside of you
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