If you are actively looking for love, trying to meet someone and brave enough to date,

chances are you have encountered behavior that has left you confused, anxious, or just hurt.

Maybe you met someone you were attracted to and they seem to be attracted to you too,

but their behavior changed at some point and now

you feel your efforts are being taken for granted. Maybe you're dating someone in the early stages

whose communication is inconsistent and it leaves you constantly questioning if they like you as

much as you originally thought they did. Or maybe you're dealing with someone who disappears and

then reaches out again as if nothing happened.

Whatever is the case, one thing is for sure.

We teach other people how to treat us.

We do this through our ability to send a strong message about our worth through our words and actions,

educating people on our needs and being unafraid to be assertive

in the right ways when the situation calls for it. Now let's start with why this is so hard to do in the

first place. We want love so badly. You might relate to the feeling of being behind, that feeling of all of your friends and family

pairing off, that feeling of, I don't know if this is ever going to happen for me, and yet it

feels like it's the most important thing in the world. And when we're coming from this place,

this place of scarcity about it happening, we attach hard to

any hope we get from someone who likes us. And when we do that, it makes us liable to reward the wrong

behaviour because someone can disappear, be inconsistent, treat us poorly, and the only thing we

really care about is holding on to them.

That makes us a target for the wrong types of people.

And as long as we prioritize finding someone over our own well-being,

...