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I know we were all raised in different ways with different families, but the way I was raised

was that the man in the relationship is ultimately responsible for the relationship, which seems

like a terrible idea because we're so bad at relationships, you know?

But that's how I was raised, and again, that's just how I was raised. But the way I internalized that growing up and even moving into marriage was that if anything

went wrong in the relationship, that ultimately somehow it was my fault.

And I say somehow, because sometimes it takes me a few minutes to figure out how it's my fault.

So in our marriage, it goes like this, Sanders like, Andy, I'm so sorry.

You know, I should have told you, Andy. And I'm like, oh, I know, it's my fault. It's my fault. She's like, how's that your fault? And I'm like, I don't know, just give me a minute. I'll come up with something. I just feel this. Again, I don't know if it's healthy, and this isn't marriage advice, this is just me.

And so through the years, I have a default.

So when I can't figure out how what she did or what

she was apologizing for is ultimately my fault, I default to this. Well, if I hadn't asked you

to marry me in the first place, this would have never happened. Again, I'm not suggesting this as a habit or pattern.

This is just us. And the reason I bring it up is this, as we kind of jump into the content

today, given enough time, given enough time, there is always a way to sneak yourself a slice

of what we're going to call the blame pie. Given enough time,

you know, regardless of what happened, who said what, or how long ago that relationship was

broken or how recently it was broken or maybe something happened this morning or this afternoon

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