How To Start A Men's Group—And Why Most Fail

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Connor Beaton

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 11 April 2024

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Talking points: leadership, accountability, group settings, masculinity If you're thinking about starting a men's group, or just want to know what to look out for, this one's for you. With everything going on in the world, I want to dig a little into creating your own men’s group—or what to look out for if you’re thinking of joining one. Because the truth is there are legions of men who would benefit from belonging to something focused on the mutual benefit of everyone involved. Seriously. (00:00:00) - Intro, and five traits to look for in the men you want for your group (00:07:58) - Where most guys go wrong: lack of leadership, clear roles, and overstructure (00:09:42) - The right amount of structure, and consequences of too much victimhood and not enough accountability (00:12:31) - What are some of the core ingredients of a powerful men’s group? Number 1: some like-mindedness (00:13:54) - A clear purpose, and clear rules of engagement (00:17:04) - A culture of calling one another forward, and strong moderation (00:19:48) - Willingness to say (and hear) hard stuff, transparency, and confronting the uncomfortable (00:22:02) - An example meeting structure that works (00:26:42) - The Hot Seat and how to use it, and a closing ritual (00:30:14) - Be flexible to red alerts, and final thoughts on structure *** Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	All right, team, welcome back to the man talk show.
0:08.6	Connor Beaton here.
0:09.8	Today we're going to be talking about how to start your own men's group or improve the
0:13.9	one that you're in and some of the fail points, some of the things that guys do wrong
0:18.8	that cause their men's groups to fail. So this is coming from
0:23.0	over a decade of experience on my end. I have been running mastermind groups, men's groups,
0:28.1	performance groups for guys. I've tried a bunch of different structures. I've run some phenomenal,
0:33.5	phenomenal groups, and I run a couple that were not so great. And so I'm going to share with you some of the
0:38.4	mistakes that I've made along the way. And some of the things that I have found that make them work
0:43.0	really, really, really well. So the first thing that we're going to talk about is who. Who should be a
0:49.3	part of your group? Now, in general, you want to have men that are committed to growth. You want to have
0:56.8	men that you want to grow with, that you genuinely care about. They don't have to be men that
1:01.9	you necessarily agree with everything on. In fact, I think that that's an important thing.
1:06.2	I think in our culture and our society today, we oftentimes look for agreeableness and agreeable people
1:12.3	and people that we have a lot sort of not just in common with, but people that we agree
1:17.7	about most subjects with. And what I found is that sometimes when we have a men's group that we
1:24.0	can be a part of where we have guys in that group that we don't necessarily agree with
1:28.1	on certain issues, certain political issues sometimes even.
1:31.9	That can be incredibly beneficial because they generally are going to have a different personality
1:37.3	style than you.
1:38.7	They're generally going to have different personality traits than you and things that you
1:43.2	are probably lacking within yourself
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