How To Snap Someone Out Of Their Victim Narrative
Crowned & Cancelled
Shallon Lester
4.7 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 17 February 2021
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Girl on Top Shallin XO podcast. I'm your host Shallin Lester and you might know me from my YouTube channel, where I analyze celebrity relationships and scandals for the lessons we can take into our own lives. But here on the podcast, I answer the best questions you submitted over the past week. Gotta love quandary, head to my website, |
| 0:21.7 | shaolinlesser.com to get connected, |
| 0:23.7 | and also shop my merch and take some fun quizzes. |
| 0:26.4 | Be sure to rate and review this podcast if you like it, |
| 0:28.8 | and follow me on Instagram at Channel NXO |
| 0:31.0 | and find me on YouTube for four new videos a week. |
| 0:46.2 | Welcome back to the podcast, Shalegators. So today our motto is going to be radical honesty. |
| 0:50.9 | Radical honesty. We're going to talk about that in this question, because in this question today, |
| 0:54.3 | we're going to tackle victim mentality and how we can deal with someone who's basically a full-time professional victim, no matter what the circumstances, because we know |
| 0:59.1 | that about victims. Circumstances don't actually matter. So we're going to deal with things in an |
| 1:04.8 | honest and transparent way. And in fact, we're going to move through the rest of our entire life |
| 1:08.9 | that way. So let's take a minute for ourselves to get loose and comfy. Ah, loosen that jaw. Yeah, rub your temples. Pull on your ears. Like, pull your ears straight out like your dumber. Oh, my gosh. It feels so good. Scratch your scalp. Like wiggle your scalp back and forth. Rinkle your nose your nose wiggle your nose like you're a little |
| 1:27.9 | bunny and get ready to receive the message we're going to go in through the nose |
| 1:32.4 | and breathe out and we're going to say our mantra radical honesty in through the nose |
| 1:42.1 | and out through the nose. |
| 1:49.1 | And out through the mouth. Now, as always, I'm getting these questions from the Shalegator Reddit thread. It's such a happy, positive place for you guys to connect. You |
| 1:52.7 | guys give the best advice to each other. And there's like 2,500 of you. Oh, yeah. Oh, over |
| 1:57.8 | 2,500. It's a fantastic little place, so head on over there, and let's get |
| 2:02.5 | into it. Welcome back, Shalogators. Well, we've got a question that's interesting, because we talk a lot |
| 2:10.4 | about victim narrative, right? Victim narrative. And most importantly, how to avoid our own |
| 2:15.8 | victim narrative. And I think we do a really good job of that. |
| 2:18.9 | We walk in the light of the truth. |
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