Welcome to on attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

dating, love and relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody. Welcome back to another episode of On attachment. Today we're going to be talking

all about one of my favorite topics which is boundaries.

Now if you've worked with me or you've taken any of my programs you might be rolling your eyes right now because

look I talk about boundaries a lot and it's almost like the thing that we always

come back to right so often people come to me with a problem or a situation and they don't think of it as a boundary problem,

but we always find our way back to boundaries, right?

Because the reality is having strong boundaries, clear boundaries,

healthy boundaries, it transforms every area of your life

in a very profound way, right? It really allows you to keep yourself safe, to protect your peace, to protect your energy, to keep yourself away from situations and people that don't serve you and that really

disturb your sense of well-being, right? And Boundaries are really the antidote to people pleasing and, you know,

over-giving, over-functioning, burnout, all of those things that really exact a heavy toll on our being and that so many of

us find ourselves stuck in. Boundaries are almost always the solution.

So today we're going to be talking about how to set a

boundary as well as some of the struggles around setting boundaries and why people

find that so challenging because you know the vast majority of us are not very good at

setting boundaries and if you've not grown up with good modeling around boundaries as many

of us have not it can seem almost abrasive or rude or arrogant or, you know, any of these other judgments

that come up at the idea of setting boundaries.

It can feel very intimidating and very edgy. So we're going to be talking about all of that.

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