Hey there, welcome back to Jillian on Love.

Today I have a guest that I would put money on the fact that most of you are going to be very excited about because you're going to know exactly who she is.

I welcome Shelina Ayana to the show,

who is a best-selling author of Becoming the One and founder of Rising Woman. That's it. It's

Rising Woman on Instagram and has a growing community of more than three million readers.

And she is so incredibly wise and comes from a very, very traumatic childhood.

And she has transformed that in a way that is nothing short of remarkable.

And the work that she has done in helping people to overcome specifically anxious attachment

is absolutely incredible and spot on.

And so I think you are going to enjoy this conversation between the two of us and get ready to take notes.

So without further ado, Shalina, hi, Shay, welcome to the show.

Thanks for having me. I'm so excited to talk to you. I'm just going to dive right in.

Yeah, let's go. Should we just get right into it. How does, in your view, a person know, and I'm sure this is a question that you get asked a lot,

how does one know that they are actually ready for a relationship?

And obviously, one that is actually healthy because I think that one of the the

fears and ongoing conversations is, have I done enough inner work?

Am I healed?

Do I feel whole?

And there's so much out there like you have to feel whole.

You have to feel complete to be in a relationship. So I would love to know your thoughts on that.

Yeah. I mean, it's obviously the age old question and we get it all the time. And you know,

there are times, there's a spectrum, there are times for sure where somebody

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