How To SEDUCE & INFLUENCE Anyone With Psychology - TRY THIS & SEE RESULTS | Vanessa Van Edwards
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🗓️ 19 January 2023
⏱️ 122 minutes
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On Today's Episode:
Social settings either get you hype and excited or they make you think of a thousand other things you’d rather do and any excuse that will get you off the hook from having to go. When your fear of being around people and having to interact with them costs your dreams, your opportunities, and your growth, you have to do something different.
Vanessa Van Edwards, a.k.a. The recovering awkward person that sold millions of copies of her bestselling books, Captivate and Cues, has more tips than you can remember, so get the pen and paper or your favorite note-taking app ready. Her work with her company the Science of People has been dedicated to helping you learn to stop being awkward, start better conversations, connect with people and understand their verbal and nonverbal cues.
Some key points Vanessa share in this masterclass is:
How to master charisma Why you want to listen to your gut Understanding your level of openness, neuroticism and conscientiousness Understanding your psychology is just the beginning. Knowing how to interpret cues in different social contexts and when to address them is next level.
Vanessa gives away key ips for understanding yourself and the people around you. Warmth and competence is the magic dose to look for.
Books to check out by Vanessa Van Edwards: Captivate: https://amzn.to/3IVvvZh Cues: https://amzn.to/3wbVxjt
QUOTES:
“I would rather you be aware of the cues that are being sent to you to know, ‘I want this or I don't’ because they are that powerful, that if someone has bad intentions, they can still produce trust.”
“This is the challenge we have as cue readers, do you want to address the emotion or the cue?”
“I think that people who doubt their ideas, and they doubt themselves, that leaks in their cues.”
“High neurotics prevent crises from happening in the first place.”
“I would rather live in hard truth than in ignorant bliss.”
“Charisma is the perfect blend of being likable and powerful.”
“Competence without warmth leaves people feeling suspicious.”
“The best thing you can do is open with warmth, hit them with competence, and end with purpose.
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| 1:07.0 | We find lower lid flexes super attractive. And I don't mean like physically attractive. I mean, |
| 1:12.9 | we want people who want to deeply listen to us. That's why when you look at really hot actors or |
| 1:19.8 | models or blue steel, they're always... Listen, I always would have hard truth over ignorant bliss. |
| 1:28.0 | Right? If she's ready for it, I'd rather teach it to her. I also think like it allows you to choose |
| 1:33.0 | if you're going to respond. You don't always have to respond to a cue. So for example, this is a cue, |
| 1:37.6 | this this study really changed the way I think about cues. It was... I talked about in the book a |
| 1:42.6 | little bit, but it really had a major impact in my life, which is a study very simply where if you see |
| 1:48.8 | a cue of social rejection, okay? So cues of social rejection. Or you are being rejected. |
| 1:54.2 | So if you see or decode a cue of social rejection on someone else, which is why we're very |
| 1:58.0 | aware of cues without realizing it. So cues of social rejection are eye rolls, scoffs, |
| 2:03.3 | even a social rejection tone of voice. Like, yeah, I don't really like that. |
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