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I was rereading some excerpts from Bill Walsh's great leadership book titled The Score Takes Care of Itself.

For those who might be unfamiliar, Bill Walsh is one of the

greatest coaches in NFL history. He took over the San Francisco 49ers when they were the

worst team in NFL with a 2-14 record and in two years turned them into the best team in the

NFL winning the Super Bowl. He went on to turn the 49ers into a dynasty, winning six

division titles, three NFC, championship

titles, and three Super Bowls.

Coach Wals not only built a winning team, he also developed eight future head coaches, who

then produced another 35 future NFL head coaches.

He was a leader of leaders.

The excerpt that stuck out to me this read through, though, is why Bill

decided to leave his leadership position at the height of his career. It is actually a tragic

lesson to learn. It is when Bill stopped abiding by the title of his book. Instead, Bill

started to define himself and his self-worth on winning. Losing, he said, can become so psychologically

crippling that winning offers little solace and no cause for celebration because you've imposed

an internal accounting system on yourself that awards zero points for winning and minus points for

losing. In that calculation, you can never

get ahead on points. That's exactly what happened to me, he said. He goes on to say, when this

happens, any kind of loss, mistake, or setback becomes very disturbing, even devastating,

because you're attached your self-image to the results of the competition.

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