How to Say NO // SPARTAN MIND

The Hard Way w/ Joe De Sena

Spartan Races

Fitness, Alternative Health, Health & Fitness, 792700

4.7 • 870 Ratings

🗓️ 8 May 2019

⏱️ 3 minutes

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Summary

Often, we take on a lot. More than we should maybe. We say YES to things we only feel lukewarm about and we nod our heads to things we would rather shake them to. The thing is, if we are saying YES to everything then it’s difficult to really tease apart what matters to us and we can end up being resentful of our own inability to set firm boundaries. Sometimes we have to set a firm NO so that we can have even firmer YESES down the road. When you set a firm NO, when you pass on something that you know in your heart isn’t right for you, you make yourself available to other things down the road that you feel strongly IS right for you.

LESSONS:
Setting a firm NO makes you more available to better YESES down the road.
Ask yourself: What am I saying YES to that I really need to be saying NO to?
Remember, saying NO to someone is not a personal attack. It is an exercise in setting boundaries and giving yourself permission to be firm.

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Host: Dr. Lara Pence
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0:00.0	What's up Spartans? It's Dr. L here, your chief mind doc was Spartan.
0:08.6	Where every Wednesday I'm here helping you clear that head of all the junk that's getting in the way of
0:14.0	you performing in the way that you want to. And today we're talking about
0:17.7	setting a firm no. Yep you heard that right it's's a firm no, not a firm yes. And here's why it's important to start
0:26.8	setting firm knows. We are becoming the society of yes people, right? We will do yes, we will say yes to things that we do not
0:36.1	want to do. Now as a Spartan you know that sometimes that's important because you've
0:40.1	got to overcome those obstacles. But sometimes on the race course in life
0:44.1	you're saying yes to things that I know you don't want to do, right? You're going to
0:49.4	the parties that maybe you don't want to go to, you're having coffee with a person that maybe you don't want to be friends anymore.
0:54.8	You're saying yes to your boss at work who's giving you yet another project when you could say,
1:00.1	hey I already have 15 on my docket.
1:02.7	Do decena, I'm talking to you.
1:04.8	You are saying yes to a lot of people
1:07.0	that maybe you would prefer to say no to.
1:10.2	So here's the thing.
1:11.4	You need to begin to set a firm no.
1:14.4	And the thing about a firm no is that once you set a firm no,
1:19.0	it will open up the doors over here so you can say yes to the things that you really want to say yes
1:25.8	to. It wasn't until I started saying no in my private practice to the things I didn't want to do
1:31.4	anymore that lo and behold who came around and into my office,
1:35.6	Joe DeSenna, and I could give him a firm yes because I had said no to a bunch of other things
1:41.6	and it opened up my availability to say yes to
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