How To Rewire Your Inner Dialogue and Re-Regulate Your Nervous System | Elizabeth Gilbert

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Dan Harris, Health & Fitness, Mindfulness, Dharma, Mental Health, Meditation

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🗓️ 10 September 2025

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

A raw conversation about addiction, love, death, grief, recovery, and more.

Elizabeth Gilbert is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of nonfiction and fiction books such as Big Magic and Eat Pray Love. Her new memoir is All The Way To The River: Love, Loss, and Liberation.

In this episode we talk about:

Ways that Elizabeth fostered dependency in her life
What Elizabeth means when she says “make other people into my home”
The modalities and practices Elizabeth uses to ground in her daily life
The definition of healthy relationships – and how to have them
Self-compassion

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0:00.0	This is the 10% Happier Podcast. I'm Dan Harris.
0:08.0	Hello, everybody. How we doing? Today, we've got a conversation with an extremely well-known person who's going to get bracingly raw and candid in describing how she learned to change the way she talks to herself and to re-regulate her nervous system. You know Elizabeth Gilbert. She wrote E. Pre Love, the memoir that sold more than 15 million copies and became a movie starring Julia Roberts. Liz is also a very well-regarded novelist, a TED Talker, a popular substacker, and more. In this conversation, we really go there. She talks about addiction, love, death, grief, forgiveness, recovery, money, the concept of home, and how she conceives of God.
0:56.4	She's got a new memoir. It's called All the Way to the River. And it's about her often incredibly
1:02.1	tumultuous relationship with her partner, Raya Elias, who died not long ago. Right now, the memoir,
1:08.1	which hits shelves this week, is getting a lot of press, some of it quite
1:11.8	critical. Among other things, some people are really keying in on how dark things got between Liz
1:18.5	and Raya. We do touch on that in this episode, but that's not the primary focus. Instead, as always,
1:25.2	my goal is to bring you the most practical takeaways from Liz's experiences
1:29.3	so that you can operationalize those insights in your own life.
1:33.3	This episode, I should say, is part of an ambitious month-long series we're doing called The Reset.
1:38.3	Every week we're tackling one area of life where resetting maybe in order.
1:43.3	Last week, it was about resetting your nervous
1:45.2	system this week it's about resetting your relationships specifically your relationship to yourself
1:50.3	which is for many of us our most problematic relationship next week we're going to talk about
1:54.7	resetting your career after that we're going to talk about how to handle change and uncertainty
1:58.6	non-negotiable and and unpleasant facts of life.
2:01.6	Before we get started with Liz, I just want to remind you that for our paid subscribers over
2:05.9	at Dan Harris.com, you will get a guided meditation customized to the themes of this episode.
2:12.5	We're doing guided meditations now for all of our Monday, Wednesday episodes.
2:16.9	Today's meditation and all of the September meditations will be coming from Vinnie Ferraro.
2:22.1	Today's is all about your craving mind, whether you're in the grips of an addiction or not.
2:27.6	To some degree, we all have addictions in our lives because our mind really is wired for this craving.
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