I don't need a sex dungeon, but I do like a little keg.

You know, in the beginning, you're exploring.

It's hot and heavy.

It's a honeymoon.

And so I just pulled that card out.

I was like, hey, can you, can't slap you?

You be, and she's like, no, well, you can, but I'm going to slap you back.

And I was like, oh, it doesn't work that way.

And I knew in that second that, okay, there's going to be a journey here.

There's going to have to be exploration, compromise.

She's not into some of the things that I'm into.

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