Hey, it's Anne. If you've listened to this podcast, you know I interview women who are dealing with

their husband's lies, anger, or infidelity. I've interviewed over 200 women and counting.

If you relate to anything you hear in this episode, we can help you today. I created our daily

live group sessions because when I was going through it, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't

find the help I needed.

We know exactly how to help women in this situation.

The entire BTR team has been through it, so we know how to anticipate the issues you're likely to face

when you discover your husband's lives or infidelity.

No matter where you are in the world, we can help you immediately. Check out our group session schedule at

BTR.org slash group. I have Shelly, a member of our community back on today's episode. I interviewed her

six months ago and I asked her to come back and check in and let me know how she's doing now.

Here's a clip from her interview. I remember having a conversation with

him. I cannot understand how you could look into my eyes at the end of the day, knowing that

you'd done that. He said, I just thought what she doesn't know won't hurt her. Are you trying to

recover after your husband cheated on you? If he's cheated on you, his lies, secrecy, and deceit have separated you

from your own sense of reality. So before I get to my interview with Shelly, here are seven things

women need to know about this. Number one, recovery begins with identification. What you're

experiencing is called betrayal trauma, naming it helps connect the dots between what happened and how it affected you.

Number two, intimate lies are domestic abuse.

The harm doesn't start once you find out about his cheating.

It begins when he starts deceiving you.

Recovery begins with accepting this truth.

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