Welcome to betrayal trauma recovery. I'm Anne. It's summer and I remember being so excited thinking my

marriage would improve as we spent quality time together on that road trip or family reunion. If you end up

having the same experience I did where vacations left me feeling more hopeless and scared because I

found out on one of those trips that my husband was using explicit material and lying to me about it.

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Marriage shouldn't feel like walking on ink shells.

I have Ingrid Clayton on today's episode.

She's a clinical psychologist and trauma therapist in Los Angeles, California, and the author of the memoir, Believing Me.

Before Ingrid and I start talking about this, here are five ways narcissistic abuse hides in

marriage. Number one, you're constantly second-guessing yourself. The gaslighting will make you

doubt your memory, your instincts, even your sanity. You may start asking, is it really that bad?

Number two, he makes big promises but never follows through. And it sounds like, we'll go to Italy next year,

or yeah, I totally support you going back to school. Just not right now. All smoke and mirrors,

they keep you hooked. Number three, you're carrying the entire relationship. You're paying the bills,

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