This makes me sound not like a great person.

My husband and I have this dream of making a bingo card.

Every time somebody says something sexist,

and every time somebody mentions the industrial complex is burning down our food infrastructure,

we're going to check a box.

If you are a terrible person, I am a terrible person because I have actually made a bingo card,

which is making me laugh so hard when you said that. I am a terrible person because I have actually made a bingo card, which is making

me laugh so hard when you said that. I need the template. Hello and welcome to how to, the show

where listeners bring us their tangliest questions and we find an expert to help them sort it out.

I'm Courtney Martin. Today's question is, well, pretty tangly. It involves our deepest

core beliefs, you know, the things that define us as parents and partners, and what happens when

those beliefs aren't compatible with those of our extended families? Today's listener, Sarah,

is a research scientist by day, but in her personal life,

she's exploring big questions about in-laws, values, and the things we teach our kids.

My husband and I have a daughter, and she is, as I say, three going on 13, as cliche as that is.

We are trying to raise her to be a really

justice-oriented kid and really confident in herself and confident in her ability to

navigate the world. And we have family that have viewpoints that are kind of at odds with that.

Sarah says she loves her husband's family,

and they're all really close. His parents live more than a thousand miles away, but Sarah and her

family visit several times a year, sometimes for weeks at a time. But her in-laws are religiously

and politically conservative in ways that are in sharp contrast to how Sarah and her husband

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