Tis the season to be triggered?

What do I mean by that?

There's a lot of triggered can mean activating a trauma or a repressed memory but

for the purposes of this talk I really I'm going to be using triggered in terms of we have in our lives adult coping strategies which we use

when we are in situations that feel safe when we're on people that are familiar when we're at jobs where we feel respected where we're in

settings where we know what's expected of us and then we all have due to our history is a whole set of

Childhood coping strategies that we use to survive our

childhoods and when we wind up back in a certain

settings those early coping strategies that no longer serve us as well

no longer look as attractive as they did with children as they do in adults can be activated.

One of the big ones, it will not be the only theme,

but one of the big ones is worrying about what other people think about us,

which can happen in any setting where we don't feel that secure.

And that worry, trying to maintain how we are regarded by others, can be extremely painful because

it uses two of the parts of the mind that are most likely to trigger your fear centers in the amygdala.

When you worry about what other people think about you, I mean that's kind of the miracle growth of obsessive thoughts to begin with.

You got self and you got speculation.

So the two things like me and things I don't know about,

like what other people think about me or what's going to happen to me in the future they can create an endless amount of obsessive repetitive thinking

so

the So the concern, what do other people think about me as a hard one to put aside? So why do we worry so about other people's opinions?

One is we are of course pack animals.

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