Hey guys, it's Kathy Heller. Welcome back to another episode of Don't Keep Your Day

Job. How are you doing? I am so happy that you're here. I want to talk about

something today which I have been working on and it's interesting because it was

what's really been coming up for me this week and then it just so happened that

Tara Morris here today and we are going to be diving into this exact issue. Do you

ever notice that in your life sometimes it's like synchronicity, the thing that

you most need to learn, the thing that you are most working on, you then have a

conversation with someone or you pick a book or someone refers you to something

and you're like that's exactly what I needed to hear. So the thing that's been

going on for me is learning how to speak up, learning how to say when something's

not feeling right, learning how to basically raise the standard on what is

working for me. Growing up in my house I think that one of the survival skills

that I had, one of the ways that I coped, one of the ways that I got through

that was learning not to make waves, was hoping to make everybody comfortable,

was wanting everything to be okay so that there wasn't a lot of fallout. And what

happened as a result of that is I became really stealth and really quite

equipped at making sure that other people were held in mind. And so that's great.

I like that that's something that I do and that I care about because empathy,

it means a lot to me and I think it's part of who I am anyway. I think that

that's part of my default makeup. But it comes at a cost sometimes because in my

life if I've been uncomfortable, if someone said something I didn't like, if I've

been in a situation where I knew I was giving more than my fair share, I would

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