Coming up on marriage today with Jimmy and Karen many times in my marriage fear most of us fight because of fear we really do

When you're fighting with your spouse most often you're fighting about your fears You're making me feel like I'm not going to be protected you're making me feel like I'm not going to be protected you're making me feel like I'm not going to be provided for you're making me feel like I'm not a good man and you you're making me afraid, so rather than being humble

and admitting our fears and bring them out in the light,

we begin to fight and act macho and tough. You're going to. I know there's a good fear. I know there's a normal fear that God gives us for good in our lives and it's

important that we have a healthy fear for our good but let me tell you the

difference between good fear and bad fear.

How to tell the difference?

Because sometimes, you know, I'm sitting here saying God will never use fear

in your life for any purpose that he's going to do, and that's true. But there is a healthy

fear and there's a demonic fear. Well how do you know the difference? Well here's some

ways you know the difference. Good fear is circumstantial, but bad fear is

perpetual. Circumstantial means you're driving down the street in your car, you see a car coming at you suddenly, and that fear causes you to swerve away and to save your life or to save the life of the people in the car from you.

And that fear wasn't there before that happened and it goes away after it's over with.

That's a circumstantial fear.

That's good fear.

Bad fear is perpetual.

It's a spirit of fear. You live with an abiding sense of anxiety that something's about to happen to you.

The other shoe is going to drop. I'm going to go broke. I'm going to die.

Harm is going to come. There's going to be a terrorist attack.

Something is going to happen to harm me and it's abiding. Anxiety wears us out and causes us to become depressed.

You just can't, your emotions can't handle long-term anxiety without bad things happening to them.

God never uses this spirit of fear, this anxiety in our lives because we can't live that way.

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