If we're conflict avoidant, so many subjects then become taboo, like we can't, we have to skirt around that, we can't talk about that.

That in the end we're not having proper contact so you do get contact through conflict you do

get connection through conflict so it's not necessarily a bad thing it is unhealthy to avoid all conflict because then you diminish

yourself. There's so much of yourself you're not communicating if you avoid conflict

altogether. Philip Peri is a psychotherapist.

A lot of life really boils down to our relationships and the quality of those connections.

But what happens when they start to break down and we find ourselves in conflict?

This is the Lizzo Well-being show the podcast helping us all have a better second half.

I'm Lizzo and I think you probably know by now that I am on a mission

to find ways for all of us to thrive in later life by investing in our health and our well

being today and that of course includes our relationship. investing in our health and our well-being today.

And that, of course, includes our relationships.

And well, disagreements can take many forms.

There's the inconsequential stuff that somehow builds

into something that feels like the end of the world.

And then there's this big stuff that often gets left unsaid for years and I guess we all deal with conflict differently. Some will run away, some will want to stay and put up a big fight.

I know for me, I find conflict really hard. I'm trying to get better but it's not something I grew up with and it's not

something I feel comfortable with at all. So I'm very much looking forward to this conversation.

Well as well as being a practicing

psychotherapist Philippa is an agony art for the observer magazine, an author, a

broadcaster, and also an artist. Her latest book is called The Book You Want Everyone You Love to Read, and it's

patch full of wisdom and advice based on real life scenarios for navigating

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