How to motivate a struggling team (without the gaslighting)
Modern Mentor
Macmillan Holdings, LLC
4.3 • 726 Ratings
🗓️ 5 May 2026
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
895. Is your team "going through the motions"? Before you reach for another inspirational speech, Rachel Cooke has a reality check: Inspiration is not the antidote to a motivation crisis.
In this episode, Rachel introduces the concept of "Motivational Gaslighting"—the trap leaders fall into when they use empty enthusiasm to mask systemic exhaustion. If engagement is tanking, it’s not an attitude problem; it’s an environment problem.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The 5 real killers of motivation: Why uncertainty, workplace loneliness, and invisible progress are draining your team’s tank.
- Safety over stoke: How to provide stability and direction when AI, the economy, and shifting priorities feel like a constant threat.
- The loneliness loop: Why "collaborating" on Slack isn't the same as "connecting," and how to fix it without adding more meetings.
- The "gap vs. the gain": Using a simple psychological shift to give your team concrete proof that their work is actually working.
- Energy audits: How to identify and kill the "meaningless work" and bureaucracy that empty your team’s reserves.
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| 0:00.0 | If you're leading a struggling team and motivation is tanking at work, you aren't alone. |
| 0:24.6 | Employees are stressed and overwhelmed. Engagement has bottomed out yet again. Leaders see it and they're trying to fix it. |
| 0:31.8 | The problem is most of them are reaching for the wrong thing. Today, let's talk about what's actually going on and what to do about it. |
| 0:40.3 | Hey, it's Rachel Cook, your modern mentor. I'm the founder of Lead Above Noise, where we help leaders |
| 0:45.7 | work better by design. You can reach out to me to speak at your next event and subscribe to my |
| 0:51.3 | brand new Work Better by Design email series at lead abovenois.com |
| 0:55.5 | slash email. Links are in the show notes. So have you ever been sold a gym membership, |
| 1:02.1 | believing on some level that just paying the money and signing up is somehow the solution to all |
| 1:07.4 | your fitness woes? I mean, haven't we all at some point? Those salespeople work on commission. |
| 1:14.2 | They give you all the inspiration you need. It's just they don't always mention the part about how |
| 1:19.8 | after you sign up, you've got to do the work. I mean, the inspiration is a great kick in the pants. |
| 1:25.7 | But without the work, you're not likely to get too |
| 1:28.1 | far on that fitness journey. |
| 1:30.6 | The gym sold you on the idea that joining was the move, that the energy of the place, |
| 1:35.8 | the equipment, the classes, oh, you're going to love it here. |
| 1:39.4 | So when you find yourself holding the membership card but not super showing up for the work, you're left |
| 1:45.4 | assuming you're the problem, no willpower, no self-control, and you end up feeling worse than |
| 1:51.7 | when you started. The same dynamic is playing out in workplaces these days, and genuinely |
| 1:58.7 | well-meaning leaders are selling the same false promises. But it's not a |
| 2:03.2 | fitness problem. It's an overall motivation one. Leaders can see their teams are struggling. Low energy, |
| 2:10.6 | people going through the motions. And Gallup keeps reminding us that engagement is tanking. |
| 2:15.8 | And leaders, like the gym salespeople, are responding with |
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