I amla. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my

relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships.

So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. Welcome, welcome, welcome to the R-Spot, the place we come to talk about relationships, all kinds of relationships,

and what happens in them, and where we fall off,

where we need to get on, where we need to get off.

And that's our topic today today getting off or getting out.

In other words an exit strategy.

Now we started this conversation last week with my two co-host Sierra and ISIS.

Sierra had to leave us, but ISIS is still with us,

and we're going to continue talking about an exit strategy.

So let me be real clear what an exit strategy is. It's your plan to be out. It's your

plan to be gone. It's your plan to leave. And a good exit strategy means you have to plan something when possible because as ISIS has shared and as I have shared sometimes you don't get the opportunity to plan, you don't get the opportunity to communicate your

intentions, you just got to be gone. So and but a good exit plan if you have time to

plan your strategy and where you're going begins with a vision where you see

yourself going and then taking into account where you are with yourself within

yourself taking into account your resources and your support

system. You got to be clear about why you're leaving. If you're not clear about why you're

leaving, whatever it is, the job, the marriage, the tenancy,

if you're not clear, chances are you can be sucked in, talked in to coming back.

You also have to have a clear vision about where you are going, not just physically,

but where you're going mentally, where you're going emotionally, where you're going physically.

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