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Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, 971900, Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 3 October 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

What do you do when someone is great on dates but goes radio silent in between? With only three dates in, it’s easy to feel confused and crave clarity, but early dating rarely provides the closure we seek. Instead of getting stuck in overanalyzing their behavior, we explore how to take control of the dynamic by modeling the kind of communication and connection you want to see.

If you’ve ever felt unsure about whether to reach out or how to navigate inconsistent communication, this episode will give you the tools to approach dating with confidence and intention.

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0:00.0	They did it again. Flower, instead of flowers, on my birthday. And 95 minutes late, but it's hard to leave when you've shared so much. Your postcode, your gluten intolerance. Then I saw it. 25% off your first Akado shop, plus free delivery. And I just knew I'd found the online supermarket of my dreams. Arcado, life delivered. Geographical restrictions, min spend 60 pounds and charges apply. Max saving 20 pounds, new customers only. Terms at Accardo.com. Ah, Benny's parents, thanks for coming. I, uh... So, Benny has really blossomed this term. You're telling me? He outgrew his bike. We sold it, on eBay. Oh, that's not quite what I meant. It's free to sell on there. Free to sell? Easy too. Sold Benny's bike, your guitar, my jacket. You sold my guitar? Shall we talk about Benny? When it's this easy to sell for free, you can't help but say when it's eBay.
0:56.8	Things people love. T's and Cs apply, exclusive vehicles.
1:04.7	What do I do when there's a long break between texts, but he's great on our dates?
1:12.4	We've been on three dates and we don't chit-chat during.
1:17.4	Hmm.
1:18.5	Three dates. So not long.
1:21.0	Firstly, we expect a lot of closure very quickly in life.
1:25.8	And early dating doesn't offer a lot of closure. You know, it doesn't offer a lot of
1:31.1	closure on how someone is or what their intentions are or why they didn't call back or why they
1:36.7	haven't called us in two weeks, but now all of a sudden want to see us. Early dating is very open-ended.
1:42.8	And to an extent, we sometimes underestimate our influence
1:47.5	in the equation. So we're so busy looking for closure from somebody else. What do they want?
1:52.8	What are their intentions? What are their patterns? Do they like me? Why aren't they texting me?
1:59.2	That we forget that we actually play a role ourselves in shaping
2:03.2	the dynamic early on Mitch Album said if you don't like the culture you have to be brave enough
2:11.8	to create your own he was not referring to dating but you know, that idea relates to so many different things.
2:20.0	We often go into situations complaining about the culture of the situation.
2:26.0	You know, we go to a party and we complain, oh, it's not a very fun party.
2:30.0	Well, are you making it fun?
2:32.5	Or are you just complaining that the party's not fun?
2:35.5	We go on a date and we say that person wasn't flirtatious and, well, were you flirtatious?
2:41.6	This person's communication is terrible.
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