How to Make Consent Sexy (Not Awkward) l ft. Sarah Sloane

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 8 August 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce. Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners. We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah’s Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration

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1:02.4	For a lot of men, you know, having your partner have sex with another man is literally a challenge to masculinity in a way that I think, you know, for some people, that can be really
1:07.6	hot because it really does kind of pull that taboo right up to the surface
1:10.9	of what would happen if my wife was sexually pleasureed by somebody else.
1:19.4	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your
1:23.8	pleasure and liberate your sex life. Today's show is all about consent and why it's
1:27.9	not only essential but actually sexy. We're diving deep into what enthusiastic consent really
1:33.4	looks like, how to ask for what you want without killing the mood, and why saying no can actually
1:37.8	lead to better sex for everyone. I'm also joined by Sarah Sloan from the app hashtag Open.
1:42.9	And together we're taking your calls about dating after divorce, navigating insecurities
1:47.4	in long-term relationships, and yes, we're talking about ethical porn consumption too.
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