How to Heal Low Self Worth to Build a Fulfilling Sex Life l ft. Tara Schuster

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 5 August 2025

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change. Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?" They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive. Featured Resource: Yes/No/Maybe List - A sexual communication tool mentioned by Tara that helped her explore new experiences and communicate openly with a partner about desires and boundaries. This structured approach allows individuals and couples to indicate their interest levels in various sexual activities, facilitating honest conversations about preferences and limits. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth 3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life) 7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough 14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works 19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration 22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy 39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration 49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication

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0:55.8	For better, worse, the first place you find safety, real everlasting safety is with yourself.
1:01.4	So finding confidence, finding self-worth, getting over this abusive relationship, forgiving
1:07.1	herself that she's having these things, It's just normal to have trauma responses like
1:11.5	this. And she doesn't need to re-traumatize herself by forcing it. I think we just need to be
1:18.4	way more gentle with ourselves. And when we suffer, recognize it.
1:26.0	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
1:27.7	I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you heal the parts of yourself that feel broken and discover the love you've always deserved.
1:33.6	So many of us were never taught how to take care of ourselves emotionally, mentally, or sexually.
1:37.4	We're told to hustle, to perform, to please, but not how to feel safe in our own bodies or how to build a life where we actually feel good.
1:45.1	That's why I'm so excited to bring you this conversation with Tara Schuster,
1:48.5	author, speaker, and emotional wellness advocate.
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