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Relationship Advice

How To Love Withdrawers Well

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.41.7K Ratings

🗓️ 24 September 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Most people have experienced moments of withdrawal or disconnection in relationships, especially during conflict. For some, these patterns can create misunderstandings and distance. No matter your role in the dynamic—whether pursuer or withdrawer—we can all benefit from deeper connection and greater emotional safety. Listen to today's show to learn how to support your withdrawer partner, foster secure attachment, and strengthen your bond. Cayla, Colter, and Lauren discuss topics such as: Understanding Withdrawers Key Challenges for Withdrawers Common Patterns in the Relationship Practical Strategies for Loving Withdrawers Balancing Needs in the Relationship Shifting Toward Secure Attachment And more! Give Me Discounts! Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

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0:04.8

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0:07.2

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0:12.5

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0:18.0

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0:23.6

HelloVet.

0:41.8

Hello and welcome to relationship advice.

0:48.9

My name is Coulter Bloxham, and I am joined here with my friends, Caleb Bozovich, and Lauren Mo Carrey.

0:49.4

We are three licensed professional counselors, and we are all about all things.

0:54.9

Relationship to a romantic relationship, your friendship, your friendship, your parenting,

0:59.3

your family relationships, your relationship with your dog, I guess.

1:03.4

And the most important relationship of all, your relationship with yourself.

1:08.4

This is the gas in the car towards connecting with other people.

1:11.9

We can't be more connected to somebody else than we are to ourselves. And today's episode is all

1:18.6

about how we can love the withdrawers in our life. Well, you know, the person who kind of shies

1:24.2

away from conflict, maybe keeps to themselves, shuts down a little bit easier,

1:28.7

is more protective of their energy. I mean, this is something we talk about on the show all the time

1:33.3

about pursuers and withdrawers and relationships. And so we're going to be looking at how do we love

1:38.6

those withdrawers well. So let's get into it. Let's talk about it later.

1:44.9

I said, I'm too tired to fight.

1:47.2

I could tell she wasn't going to go for it.

1:49.4

Asking my wife to wait for an answer was like asking a diver to just jump into the water

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