To use a combination of contemporary psychology and traditional Buddhist psychology,

one could construct an understanding of why we turn certain experiences into

resentment as follows.

In life, we, in early life, we have experiences that are vulnerable.

Experiences where we find a parent abandoning, where we feel a sudden insecurity and everything that we associate

with that experience we tag as threatening.

These parts of us become exiled. tag as

the threatening. one great psychologist Richard Schwartz calls it,

or what Freud called it repress.

We take everything that we associate with abandonment and vulnerability and we push it away.

We experience separation, we experience loss, and the mind exiles it,

expels it from consciousness,

doesn't want to think about,

doesn't want to know about,

everything associated with that early abandonment

becomes toxic, labeled as something we cannot allow

ourselves to remember to be in touch with to know about.

I'm going to refer to that as the exile. Secondly, there's another part of us in the mind that

Freud referred to as the ego. American psychologists such as Masterson and Schwartz and all and other British

psychologists as Winnicot, referred to as the self, and that's the part of the mind that observes experience

takes in life and just as aware.

The Buddha called it sappi, the wise part of the mind that observes life. Those are two parts. There are more parts of the mind that observes life.

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