So over the past few years, I've been talking about this idea of self-leadership and talking about how important it is for us as men to be able to lead ourselves effectively in our own lives.

Before we look at leading within the context of a relationship or a work environment, that those things are offshoot.

Those things are reflections of how you lead yourself within your own personal life, within your own psychology, within your own

morals and ethics, within the way in which you give your word and keep it. And so today,

because I've been talking about what it means to lead in a relationship,

I'm going to talk about one of the arguably the most valuable and important aspects, which is

how do you lead you most effectively? So the first thing that I want to talk about is just

reiterating the definition of leadership. It's a process of social influence where you influence one or many

people towards a common goal or task. And so self-leadership is really about how you influence

yourself towards something, right? Ideally something positive, ideally something generative,

but it's really about how you influence

yourself, the decisions that you make, the direction that you take your life, the vision that you

have for yourself, the goals that you set for yourself, the things that you commit to, and the

attributes and the aspects of your life that you're trying to build some semblance of

really not only responsibility but your capacity to develop real competence within the various

aspects of what is meaningful. So self-leadership is essentially how do you influence you? Now, when we just

ask that question, there's probably a myriad of things that come up, right? You probably think,

well, sometimes I don't influence myself in a very good way, you know, or sometimes I'm allowing

everybody else in my life to influence my decisions. I see guys do this all the time

where, you know, they're dating a woman or they've been given a job offer and they sort of scout around

and they ask everybody in their life, what do you think? Do you like her? Do you think she's a good

fit for me? Do you think that we're going to work out? Or do you think

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