Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom,

and insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening,

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How to keep them with you. We're always losing our kids. In fact, we're raising them to lose them.

Every minute, every interaction is building towards that moment when they will leave and live their

own life. We're raising them knowing that one day we will leave them for good too. Plus, there is the

fact that as the Stoics say, we're constantly changing, ceasing to become who we once were, and nowhere is this truer than with our children who will never be one or two or three or thirteen ever again.

So how do we keep them with us without literally always trying to keep them with us?

How do we deal with this constant endless loss without losing

ourselves? Well, we have to grab a hold of what we can. A couple of months ago, we talked about

a great line in the beautiful song by the National about really being there when we're somewhere,

when we're with someone. Well, they have a new song, New Order T-shirt that puts it even better. The song I carry them with me with me like drugs in the park, glass of beer.

I flicker through.

I carry them with me like drugs in the pocket.

You and the Kentucky Aquarius. The song is actually about his wife, Karen Besser, and not their daughter, Ila, but it holds true.

Most of us probably do recall our kids chatting it up at an aquarium, and soon enough we'll see them drinking at a bar or a barbecue.

All of this will exist to us only for a few fleeting

seconds, not as some long film, but as a handful of shorts. We'll need to grab a hold of what we

can, freeze it in our minds, carry it with us always, running these clips again and again in our

minds. It won't always be the most special and poignant of

moments, but it will be the little things. When the light caught them in the backyard, when you

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