Hi, this is Janet Lanzvery. Welcome to Unruffled. In this episode, we're going to talk about frustration

or child's, which maybe then leads to ours, of course, and how to help them develop

more patience. It's really common for our children to express frustration as they practice

new skills, but how uncomfortable this can be for us to witness, right? So I'm going

to be responding to a parent and offering some advice regarding helping her easily frustrated

child learn more patience. Okay, here's the note that I received. Dear Janet, thank you for your

books, elevating child care, and no bad kids taught their discipline without shame. When our

son was born in those first few days of looking into his eyes, I saw a deep understanding that I

wasn't expecting from a baby. I remember saying to my husband that I could almost imagine him

just opening his mouth and having a regular conversation with me. He's just turned to,

and I still see that wisdom in his eyes that he expresses in a way that he's able. Before becoming

a parent, I would observe many children that I thought were not polite and respectful, and oftentimes

just out of control. It's easy to judge when you're not a parent, so when my boy was born,

I was torn as I didn't want to raise a kid that ruled the house, but I also didn't want to force

pleasing behaviors that were not genuine. That's why I appreciate your books, which are about

raising polite and respectful kids. By being the example, you want your kids to follow.

You gave me a way to apply discipline that allows me to stay connected, but also recognize my own

limits and needs. I do also have a question if you have time at some point. How do you encourage

patience? My son is very bright, and for a two-year-old has a big vocabulary. He can sometimes focus

for a very long time on his own, flipping through books, playing with his stickle bricks,

or just talking to and rearranging his cuddly toys. However, both my husband and I and his

wonderful caregivers at daycare have had conversations about how he can also very quickly become frustrated

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