Hey everyone, welcome back to Jillian on Love. Today I have an intense episode, actually. I speak to a woman who

is living with a lot of heartbreak, a ton of anxiety. And at first, I thought that we were going to go deep into her breakup.

But as she started to tell me about her relationship with her parents,

I knew that this was a direction that I had to take with her.

And I could have gone in the direction of mom or dad, but it became clear to me, and I just

followed my gut with this one to focus more on the relationship with her mom because this

is the relationship that seems to have a stronger hold on her.

And, you know, it's one of those conversations where I wish I had several more.

And, but we made a lot of progress in her understanding why she's so anxious and how to start

to overcome some of the trauma and pain that she experienced in her relationship with her mom,

and then how then to change the way she chooses partners and even shows up in partnership.

But the truth is this episode is really about our relationship with ourselves and how to see

ourselves differently and to start telling ourselves a different story about us.

And so much of our self-esteem and our self-worth comes from the story we tell ourselves about who we are.

So I think this is by far the most involved episode that I've done to date.

It's really deep.

And I think it's going to help a lot of you. So here we go.

Hello, welcome. Hi. Thank you, Jillian. What's your question? I would love if you could try to help me find my adult self and stop embodying the difficult child narrative that I seem to have carried due to my background and my childhood, essentially.

Okay, it's a big question.

So what's the difficult child narrative that you have?

Well, it comes from my mom, I think, and sort of, I mean, I think as long as I can remember,

I felt like I didn't fit in or I wasn't doing quite the right thing.

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