How To! | Have the Best Sex of Your Life (Encore)
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🗓️ 11 February 2025
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Summary
Ever since she started taking a new medication a few years ago, Meme is worried that she's lost her sex drive. She still has a great relationship with her husband, but she isn't interested in sex the way that she used to be, and she's worried it's hurting her marriage. On this episode of How To!, we bring on sex educator Emily Nagoski, author of Come as You Are, to coach Meme through how to revamp her sex life. For busy couples, you should actually schedule a time on your calendar to be intimate. "Think of like when you were dating…that was date sex," Emily reminds us. She then breaks down the myths that so many of us have internalized about sex, and shares surprising tips to help anyone—no matter their age or relationship status—have better sex.
If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Save Your Marriage."
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| 0:30.0 | Hey, how-to listeners. Well, it's that time of year again when romance is in the air, |
| 0:35.2 | Cupid starts slinging his arrows and love conquers all. |
| 0:39.0 | But of course, intimate relationships, even on Valentine's Day, are a lot more complicated than that. |
| 0:45.3 | So this week, we're featuring what, for obvious reasons, is one of our most popular episodes from back in the day. |
| 0:52.1 | It's called How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life. And while |
| 0:57.6 | the title does kind of say it all, the advice might surprise you. So I'm going to pass the mic to |
| 1:03.2 | our former host, David Epstein, and we'll see you back here next week. I talked to a woman in |
| 1:09.6 | Europe who she and her husband and her small children |
| 1:13.3 | every year would rent the same vacation home and they had great vacation sex. One year they |
| 1:20.1 | couldn't get that house and so they rented a different house and it was not the same. She and her |
| 1:25.5 | husband were like, what is the difference? |
| 1:34.1 | It turns out that house was so old, the bed was built into the wall, which means it was silent. |
| 1:43.4 | There was no rocking and noise and therefore no chatter in her head about the kids waking up and wondering what's up and coming and walking in. |
| 1:47.3 | Welcome to how to. |
| 1:49.0 | I'm science writer David Epstein. |
| 1:55.3 | The beauty of an advice podcast is that we're here to give you the kind of counsel that your friends and family can't always provide. |
| 1:57.6 | Or maybe you just don't want to ask. |
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