How To Have Crave-Worthy Sex (Even If You're Burnt Out, Busy, and Exhausted)

The Liz Moody Podcast

Liz Moody

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 3.2K Ratings

🗓️ 4 February 2026

⏱️ 111 minutes

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A lot of us know the physical and mental benefits of sex, and yet so many of us are not having the amazing sex we want. So I wanted to know—why don't we crave sex even though we like it? And how can anyone, no matter how exhausted they are, or no matter how long they've been with their partner, regularly have the best sex? I chat with Dr. Nicole McNichols, an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, whose course is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington, and she shares answers to all of my questions, plus gives genius solutions to all of your sex problems. She also tells us, surprisingly, where the male G-spot is (it’s probably not where you think it is). 🎧 What you’ll learn: • How to combat why you don't want sex, even though you like it • The orgasm gap and exactly how to close it with communication techniques that work • What actually makes long-term partners hot for each other • The intimacy date that will change everything • The four types of intimacy in a relationship • The truth about a successful female orgasm • Where women’s and men’s “ G-spots” are • The one small change to do a month to keep passion alive If you liked this episode, check out these episodes of The Liz Moody Podcast: • Your Trickiest & Most Embarrassing Sex Qs, Answered with Sex Educator, Emily Nagoski • I Don’t Want to Have Sex With My Partner!” & Other Taboo Relationship Qs with Girls Gotta Eat • 50% of People Cheat: The Real Reasons Why + What To Do Next with Dr. Tammy Nelson For more from Dr. Nicole McNichols: • Book, You Could Be Having Better Sex: https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/ • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_thesexprofessor/ • Website: https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/ Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now! Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome.Buy our cute sweatshirts, conversation cards, and more at https://shop.lizmoody.com/. Use our discount codes from our highly vetted and tested brand partners by visiting https://www.lizmoody.com/codes. To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: • Avocado: check out AvocadoGreenMattress.com for up to 20% off organic mattresses + more. • Goodles: visit www.Goodles.com or available nationwide at major grocery stores. • Lumebox: head to TheLumeBox.com/Liz for early access to 45% off now, only with my link. • LMNT: head to DrinkLMNT.com/Liz to get a FREE 8-count sample pack with any order. • Marley Spoon: MarleySpoon.com/offer/LizMoody for up to 25 FREE meals. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast. This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 402. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	A lot of us know the physical benefits of sex by now, the better sleep, the stress reduction,
0:04.7	the pain relief. And we know the emotional benefits. We can feel them. We can feel how much
0:09.0	closer it makes us feel to our partners. And yet, so many of us still are not having the sex
0:15.7	that we want. We are too busy. We are too tired. We're lying in bed after a long day and we're doing the math on whether sex is going to impact
0:23.7	the sleep that we desperately need.
0:25.6	So I wanted to know why don't we want to have sex even though we like it, even though it feels
0:32.4	good afterward?
0:33.7	And how can anyone, no matter how exhausted they are, no matter how long they've been with their partner, have the kind of sex that we get excited to get in bed for?
0:42.4	And who better to answer these questions than Dr. Nicole McNichols, an internationally renowned human sexuality professor whose course is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington?
0:53.3	She has been studying sex for decades. Her new
0:56.3	book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, is absolutely phenomenal. She had answers to all of my questions.
1:02.2	She had solutions to all of the sex problems that you guys have shared with me over the years,
1:06.1	and she had genius tips that I have never heard anywhere else. Welcome to the Liz Moody podcast where we share real solutions that fit into your actual life to the trickiest problem so that you can feel as good as possible every single day.
1:19.3	I'm your host, Liz. I've been a journalist for over two decades.
1:22.1	I have spent my career learning how to ask the right questions, even if they're taboo, even if they're uncomfy, so that you can get the answers that will actually change your life. And this
1:32.4	episode is going to change your life. So let's dive right in. All right, Nicole, welcome to the
1:37.7	podcast. Thanks so much, Liz. I'm so happy to be here. Can I ask, like, why sex for you? I know
1:43.5	that you came into this field because essentially
1:45.2	there was like a job opening, right? But then it became a passion of yours. So like, what drew you to it?
1:51.0	I did not certainly grow up thinking that I would become a sex professor. It was something that I did
1:56.6	step into when the opening came in the department because the professor before me had just
2:01.4	broken her leg. And I stepped into the classroom with this idea that what I really wanted
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