A Simple Trick To Make Best Friends As An Adult (+ The REAL Reason It's So Hard)

The Liz Moody Podcast

Liz Moody

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 3.2K Ratings

🗓️ 2 February 2026

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Frankly, making new friends kind of sucks. So I dove into exactly why it’s so hard, and figured out that there’s a key part of the friendship equation we’re all missing these days, and unfortunately, our society is set up in a way that’s making it worse every day. This is why so many of us feel so lonely despite following all of the friendship advice we read and hear. I get into the REAL reason it’s so hard to make best friends as an adult, and exactly how you can fix it. 🎧 What you’ll learn: • The hidden reason adult friendships fail before they start • The "creation era" vs. "cozy era" of friendship • A therapy trick to help you make new friends • The best first friend hang ideas • The exact number of hours it takes to turn someone into a close friend • How to fast-track friendship without the pressure • How your phone is impacting your ability to make real friends Check out the previous episodes of The Liz Moody Podcast discussed today: The Secret To Making Soul Satisfying Friends As An Adult (Avoid The Mistake Everyone Makes!) Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now! Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome. Buy our cute sweatshirts, conversation cards, and more at https://shop.lizmoody.com/. To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. Use our discount codes from our highly vetted and tested brand partners by visiting https://www.lizmoody.com/codes. This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: • IQ Bar: text LIZ to 64000 for 20% off. • Pique: head to PiqueLife.com/LizMoody for 20% off. • Osea: get 10% off your first order at oseamalibu.com with code LIZMOODY. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast. This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 401. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	There's so much advice on the internet about making friends as an adult. I have given so much
0:04.6	advice on this podcast. And yet, most of us are still lonely. Most of us still find ourselves
0:11.0	scrolling instead of having the social time that we need and crave. I just moved to a new town
0:16.0	in the Bay Area and I have been trying to prioritize making local friends. And I kept meeting people and putting their numbers in my phone or I kept clocking
0:25.3	these really fun local events.
0:27.1	And then I still couldn't get it over the line.
0:30.8	I'd find myself coming up with excuses to not go to the events or taking forever to respond
0:35.1	to the text.
0:36.1	And I was like, wait, Liz, you want friends.
0:38.9	What is going on here? And then I figured it out. There is a key part of the friendship equation
0:44.7	that we are all missing these days. And unfortunately, our society is set up in a way that is
0:49.8	making it worse every single day. This is why it is so hard to make new friends and to make
0:55.4	best friends. This is why so many of us feel so lonely, despite following all of the friendship
1:00.9	advice that we read in books and see on social and listen to in podcasts like this one, yes,
1:06.7	I'm calling myself out too. Today, we are going to get into the real reason why it is so hard
1:12.6	to make best friends as an adult. And I'm going to tell you exactly how to fix it. Welcome to
1:18.3	the Liz Moody podcast where we share real solutions that fit into your actual life to the
1:22.6	trickiest problem so that you can feel as good as possible every single day. I'm your host, Liz.
1:28.2	I've been a journalist for over two decades.
1:31.0	I have spent my career learning how to ask the right questions, even if they're taboo,
1:35.7	even if they're uncomfy, so that you can get the answers that will actually change your life.
1:40.2	Here's the thing.
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