Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne. I have Kathy Kinghorn with me today who is an amazing therapist and a personal friend and she's also the program director and co-owner of Therapy Utah. You can find their website at

therapy Utah.org. She made a major career change when she went from working in the

business world to working as a clinical therapist. She started working in the business world to working as a clinical therapist.

She started working in the world of counseling back in 2000 when she began volunteering as a

rape crisis counselor.

As she worked toward her degree, Kathy found that her heart was in working with individuals

struggling with depression, anxiety, addictions, and trauma. And after extensive training, she became

a certified sexual addiction therapist and a certified multiple

addiction therapist. Because of her depth of knowledge in the arena of

sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, she is qualified to

supervise those who are seeking the certification and I'm really

excited to talk to her today. Kathy is here today to talk about what questions can

help empower you to healing and what questions to avoid because they're just not going to help you. So welcome Kathy.

Thanks.

What got you started thinking about this topic of questions and which ones are helpful and which ones aren't helpful.

In the populations I work with, either individuals struggling with betrayal trauma or the

addict, there's questions that can weigh you down, especially when you're

new to the process and then there's questions that help give you the right focus

and the right direction. So let's start with some of the unhelpful questions. With your clients, which

questions do you see harm them or keep them stuck? So Anne, I'm talking about really just early in recovery.

So let's take it from maybe zero to six months, even the first year sometimes,

depending on the their life is one way, they find out this information that completely shocks them.

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