If you believe that you're not the toxic one and then they believe they're not the toxic one,

then what's actually going on here?

Maybe the problem isn't about who's toxic.

The problem is that...

Let's talk about toxic people.

Because toxic people are everywhere, right?

You've got narcissists who only care about themselves.

You've got manipulators who twist every situation into their favor.

You've got gaslighters who make you question your own reality.

You've got users who take and take but never give back.

And let's not forget the chronic victims, the people who just

never take responsibility for anything. They drain your energy. They ruin your relationships.

They make life harder than it needs to be. And if you're not careful, they will pull you into

their mess. So we typically do what we've been taught. We set the

boundaries. We cut them off. We refuse to engage because we know toxic people just don't change.

They're going to keep hurting you and hurting you as long as you allow them to stay in your life. And that's why

the best advice, the only advice, is very simple. Stay away. Because if you don't, you'll just

end up getting hurt. Now, I want to challenge that idea. And look, I don't want to deny your

experience. I don't want to suggest that you haven't

been hurt. I just want to ask you one question. What if we've been thinking about toxic people

all wrong? Now, before you roll your eyes, just hear me out because I know what you're thinking.

Like, I've seen toxic people. I've dealt with toxic people. I know what they're like. They're in my family.

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