How to Handle Liars

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education

5 • 5.8K Ratings

🗓️ 29 October 2024

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

Ever had that nagging feeling that someone isn’t being honest with you? It’s frustrating when you know something’s off, but you’re not sure how to address it. Especially without things getting messy. Here’s the good news: You don’t have to call someone out directly to get closer to the truth. In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 subtle ways to handle conversations when someone isn’t telling the whole story. These 3 strategies will help you keep your cool, let the other person’s honesty (or lack of it) reveal itself, and avoid getting tangled up in their story. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Pre-order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Somebody just as bad.
0:02.0	but you know it's a lie.
0:04.0	If you call it out, well, that's just going to be worse.
0:06.0	They're going to double down on it.
0:08.0	But if you leave it alone, well, that can be just as bad.
0:11.0	On today's episode, it's all about how to respond to a liar.
0:15.0	Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher podcast where I'm on a mission to make your next
0:18.7	conversation the one that changes everything. If you enjoy learning tools to improve your communication, I'm going to
0:24.5	ask you to follow this podcast and if you would please leave a review. I want to let you know that my
0:29.1	new book, the next conversation is officially out on pre-order and I'll have the links for it in the
0:34.6	notes. And as always if you have any topic suggestions just throw them in the
0:37.9	comments and I'll be reading them. When somebody tells you something that you know
0:41.3	to be a lie, number one, take a pause and say, I need to come
0:45.9	back to this conversation. I need to come back to this conversation. If they're telling you the truth,
0:51.9	no problem. They're going to say, okay, take your time. But if they're not telling the truth, oh, they're not going to like it. Because it's telling them that you're not buying that. They're going to have this big overreaction and say things like, well, what do you think happened?
1:05.5	Or what, you think I'm lying? They're going to try to reconstruct the narrative while you're talking.
1:09.8	Number two, you can also say, something feels off, but something feels off.
1:16.0	If they're telling the truth, they're not going to have any problem with it.
1:18.6	They're going to try and work through it and say, well, what feels off?
1:21.2	Let's talk, let's talk about it. But if they're not, or they're going to just spiral.
1:25.4	They're going to try and actually gaslight you and challenge your sense of reality and say things like,
1:29.8	you are literally insane right now. Or do you know what you even sound like you're crazy?
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