Hi everybody. Welcome to the Women's Dating and Confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today I want to talk to you

about the thoughts in your head that tell you that you're not enough.

Before we get into that, I want to share with you my free guide called copy and paste text for when he's pulling away or acting flaky.

And the link for that is going to be in the show notes.

And this is just a really good guide for the early stages of dating and communication when things are imperfect and people are being flaky.

So one thing that came up today in our group coaching session was not enough thoughts.

And there was a woman who had a lot of anxiety about getting back into dating after years of just focusing on her kids

and other aspects of life.

And she had a lot of anxiety around getting hurt again and putting herself out there.

And so we did a full process of going back into her last relationship and what happened there

and what that experience was like and why she withdrew from dating for so long.

And one of the things that we uncovered was that with her last breakup,

part of what was so painful was not just the breakup itself,

but also mainly how she treated herself during that breakup.

And one thing that most of us can relate to is when we have a hurt, like a rejection or

we make a mistake or something goes in a way that we didn't

want it to go in dating. We can blame ourselves, be really hard on ourselves, tell ourselves it's

because we're not good enough and basically be our own worst enemy. And so what we were talking about was on one hand, we fear dating

because we don't want to meet an asshole, right? We don't want to meet somebody who's going to

hurt us and be mean to us and make us fall for them and then not catch us, right? So we're

afraid of what might be out there, but also a, right? So we're afraid of what might be out there,

but also a big part of what we're afraid of is what will happen in here if we do

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