Hi, you're listening to Small Things Often from the Gottman Institute, where we talk you through

research-based tips to help improve your relationships in five minutes or less.

Today's tip is about giving your relationship a fresh start. Do you want more excitement or fun in your

relationship? Does it feel stale or boring? Well, you can't just

wish for a change. You have to make it happen by being intentional and maybe reboot your relationship.

You can do that in four small steps that'll make a big difference. The first is to touch your partner. Sounds simple, right?

But you need to go the extra mile. Try a three-breath hug where you and your partner stand face-to-face,

embrace each other deeply and strongly. Both of you should inhale and exhale together, and then repeat that two more times. A three-breath

hug can be super calming and makes for a relaxing ritual that you can share together every day. Oh,

and when you go to bed, passionately kiss them good night. No grandma kisses aloud. The second step is to

talk and share some appreciation for each other.

It doesn't really matter how you do it. You can say it to your partner. Write them a note and

stick it next to their coffee. Or maybe send a text. What's important is that every day you share

something that you love, admire, or appreciate about them.

And get specific.

Share a story where your partner displayed one of your favorite qualities about them.

Like that time, they helped a neighbor who was struggling to change their tire in their driveway.

Say how much you love how thoughtful and kind they are.

Okay, and for the third step, you need to tease your partner.

Build some anticipation for the night ahead by sending them a sexy picture of yourself.

Or maybe give them a seductive wink over breakfast that says,

Can't wait to see you later tonight.

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