You're listening to How to Be a Better Human. I'm your host, Chris Duffy, and today's episode

was recorded in front of a live audience in Vancouver at the 2025 TED conference. This month on the show,

we're thinking about love and who could be a better guest for a love conversation than the author

of How to Find True Love, Francesca Hogi. Francesca is many things. She's an author. She's a love conversation than the author of How to Find True Love, Francesca Hogi.

Francesca is many things.

She's an author.

She's a love coach.

She's a former competitor on the TV show Survivor.

But above all else, Francesca is someone who really believes in the magic and potential of romance.

But at the same time, she's very realistic about what love is not.

So whether you are single and determined to stay that way, whether you are in a committed

relationship looking for love or something else entirely, Francesca's got insights that I feel

very confident are going to resonate with you.

To get us started, here's a clip from Francesca's TED talk.

The fairy tale industrial complex has been lying to you.

Through a pervasive web of marketing, advertising, music, movies, and more,

it's said that while you can't buy love, you can buy your worthiness of being loved.

Its commodification of romantic love as a storybook fantasy can be summed up in three simple words,

Happily Ever After. Happiness forever. If only, you're lucky enough and good enough and good-looking enough

to be chosen by a high-status partner, ideally in a romantic comedy-worthy moment.

Over the last 10 years, I have spoken to thousands of people about their romantic hopes and

dreams, and I can report that

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