Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

Why are relationships seemingly so hard for so many people when it's the thing we need the most to feel alive, to feel happy, and to feel connected.

This is the million dollar question, you know. I'm a relationship therapist for 35 plus years. I work with people in their romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, co-founder,

colleagues, co-workers. So love and work, the two pillars of our life, as Freud said.

And if I could just say, why is the simple feeling of loving or caring not enough? Because

the entire human drama is really complex.

The same way as nature is complex.

So is human nature complex.

I spent my whole career studying what is changing in relationships.

You know, are they more complicated today?

Are they more painful today? You know, have our expectations changed? And that I have answers to. I don't have answers to why is it so, you know, but I do know.

Is it more complicated now? Really ships there? 50 or 100 years ago. Yes, absolutely. Why is that?

Why?

For a very simple reason.

For a long time, we live, and we're still in many parts of the world, live in traditional

societies where relationships are clearly codified.

There are clear rules.

There are roles.

There are obligations.

There's a tight structure from which you can't get out,

but it tells you clearly who you are, where you belong, where you root it, and what's expected of you.

And you don't have too much questions about whose career matters more, and who's going to wake up to feed the baby,

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