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Welcome back. I'm Rebecca.

And I'm Gabe. And it's March. We're loving March. And we're loving spring break, which is about to happen. I don't know if you guys have little kids or your kids are grown, but we have both. We have all of them. Which means spring break still in the calendar. It takes me back, Rebecca, to college spring breaks. Oh, yes. Spring break 95 in particular.

96.

We were in college in Lynchburg at Liberty University, and the thing to do is a road trip, and this was a traumatic road trip, though. Oh, my goodness. That still haunts you to this day. I can't wait. You're bringing it up. I'm sorry, but I mean, we basically, a group of us caravan. There's multiple cars. in one car, the girl's in the other car.

And we're supposed to be, they were supposed to be looking out for us, but they were not. Well, you guys, I think, just got off track. And we didn't have GPS. No, no. You were the only one of our whole group that had a phone. That's true. My little Erickson flip sitting on my belt.

Yeah, so we were supposed to be like, you know, carpooling down to Florida.

But we, our driver, she fell asleep at the wheel, 72 miles an hour, cruise control, interdats suburban.

And you guys. And you guys were long gone because she missed the turn, I guess the exit that you guys wound up taking to go south.

Yeah, we were going to Miami.

I mean, this was like a 15-hour...

And we were like still in the Carolinas like near Charleston area.

So all of a sudden, the car just slowly veered off the interstate and started the side of the suburban started hitting all these trees.

And I was laying in the middle seat unbuckled in my denim overalls.

Yeah.

And it was like getting dark.

And I just remember like flying in the air as we hit each tree on the side and just feeling like when this thing stops, will we still be alive? Yeah. It was like that. It's so traumatic. And it still bothers you to this day. I mean, if it's nighttime, you often will start to doze off and you quickly wake up and grab me. Hey, are you okay? Are you awake? Are you awake? So my rule is because I was asleep, I was asleep, but then the driver fell driver fell asleep. And my dad had kind of a little pattern of dozing off a little bit when he would drive on the interstate. So I think the neurotic in me is like, we did all live, thank God. And it was really a miracle that we walked away because the suburban was totaled. We had a lot of bruises. We had to go to the hospital. And then on my little Erickson phone, I remember getting messages hours later. I called him so many times. And all the guys were like, what? And you guys are in a hospital. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Recovering. And we're trying to figure out how to get you back to spring break and I remember

working with you to get flights books so you could get down to Florida still and yeah couple of us

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