Why do some people thrive in AA while others feel like they're speaking a different language entirely?  Phil's story illustrates the profound difference between shame-based recovery and compassionate inquiry. After cycling through AA for 15 years without lasting success, he found a new path when he learned how to explore drinking without judgment, treating each drinking episode as valuable data rather than personal failure. Coach Onowa guides Phil through his transformation from weekend binge drinking to understanding the deeper connections between childhood trauma, work anxiety, and his relationship with alcohol, showing how self-compassion became his gateway to freedom. In this episode, Phil and Onowa discuss: Shifting your mindset from judgment to compassion in alcohol recoveryThe emotional impact of alcohol use on mental healthHow to explore drinking without judgment to foster self-compassion The importance of compassionate inquiry in understanding addiction Learning to let go of guilt and shame around past drinking behavior The relationship between alcohol, anxiety, and depression Overcoming the stigma of relapse and embracing data points Practical strategies for building resilience in alcohol-free living How to navigate difficult social situations without alcohol and more… Onowa Bjella is a certified TNM Senior Coach with over 20 years of experience in teaching and coaching. She believes that self-compassion is key to creating a balanced relationship with alcohol. As a mom, Onowa is dedicated to healthy eating and living, and she helps other health-conscious moms take control of their relationship with alcohol and become their best selves. Learn more about Coach Onowa: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/onowa-bjella/