You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today's episode is a Q&A episode and I'm answering the question of how can I enjoy being single when if I'm being honest I really wish I was in a relationship

So I know a lot of people are in this situation of being single and deep down actually just wanting a relationship and probably coming up against a lot of advice on social media and elsewhere telling them to enjoy being single and really savor in that experience and make the most of it and you should be really happy that you're single.

And while I think that advice is coming from a well intentioned place

sometimes it can be frustrating when that's just not how we're feeling and we can almost feel like we are deficient or we can feel some shame for our true

desire which is to be in a relationship.

So I'm going to be talking through that and giving some reframes and perspective shifts and permission slips that will hopefully help you to navigate this period of your life, this season of your life, with a little more self-compassion and in a way that allows you to have both to own your desire to be in relationship while also enjoying your life as it is today. So that's what we're going to be talking

about in today's episode. Before I dive into that, a couple of quick announcements. I wanted to share the featured review for today which I've actually

taken from Spotify you might have heard me say recently Spotify now lets you

leave little comments under episodes and so to try and be fair to the people who are

Spotify listeners rather than Apple who haven't historically been able to leave reviews

I'm going to start drawing from the Spotify comments in addition to the Apple

podcast reviews in the review of the week. So today's is I discovered your

podcast by chance while going through the hardest time in my life and I can't express the profound impact it's made.

You taught me the wise and gave me hope for the future that I couldn't see. Thank you so much. That is such a

touching and humbling review and I'm so so grateful for you and I'm grateful that you found me and that you are able to find your way back to hope.

If that was your review please send an email to podcast at Stephanie rig.com and my team will set you up with free access to one of my masterclasses.

The other quick announcement that I wanted to share in keeping with the theme of today's episode,

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