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How to Do It: My Girlfriend’s Real Sexual History Caught Me Off Guard

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🗓️ 5 December 2021

⏱️ 21 minutes

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This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who just found out something about his girlfriend that disgusts him. Then they hear from a letter writer who’s wondering what to do about his in-laws’ peculiar pre-wedding tradition. Mentioned in the episode: Shameless by Nadia Bolz-Weber Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $1 for your first month. *** Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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at Slate.com slash HTDI+. That's Slate.com slash HTDIPLUS. Warning, this podcast contains

1:12.2

explicit language and conversations of a sexual nature. Hi, I'm Stoya. I'm a writer and

1:21.2

a pornographer. And I'm Rich Juzwiak. I'm a writer. We're the authors of how to do it.

1:26.8

Slate's Sex Advice column. This is our new podcast where we answer brand new letters

1:31.5

about all your sex and relationship issues twice a week. You can ask us anything about sex,

1:37.2

anything we're here to help. So after reviewing our questions that we're

1:41.9

going to talk about this week, I was curious as to how much you care about a partner's

1:47.2

sexual history. I'm hesitant if they don't have very much sexual history. I'm 35. I tend

1:55.6

to date people in my age group. I did date that 25 year old about a year. But people who

2:03.1

haven't had much sexual experience in their 30s can be very exuberant in a way that makes

2:12.8

me tired. There's this concept that I ran into in Serbia of like a professional deformation.

2:21.8

Like when something is your job, you tend to slip into work mode. So when confronted with

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