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How To!

How To Discover Your Kink

How To!

Slate Magazine

Business, Education, How To, Self-improvement

4.41.9K Ratings

🗓️ 20 May 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it’s been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we’re seeking—and communicate them to others. If you liked this episode check out:  How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy How To Orgasm How To Lose Your ‘Virginity’ at 43 How To Have an Open Relationship Also: Death, Sex & Money’s Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you’ll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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of euphoria.

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1:00.4

You actually created something that is really arousing for you.

1:04.0

I just want to congratulate you on that.

1:05.8

It created some disappointment and misery, but also there were a lot of moments of excitement.

1:13.4

Welcome to how to. I'm Carval Wallace. You may have already figured it out from the title,

1:19.0

but today's episode about finding your kink is probably not safe for work, depending on where

1:24.1

you work, I suppose. But a more important heads up is that we do talk in

1:28.2

passing about sexual trauma. So if this one isn't for you, then please take care. And we'll see you

1:34.5

next week. So we've done a number of episodes on sex over the years. I mean, this is an advice

1:41.2

show and it probably won't surprise you that sex advice is something

1:44.5

that people, a lot of people, are seeking. And the main takeaway from most of those episodes is that

1:50.3

you need to prioritize pleasure. Sex should feel good. It should feel nourishing. It should feel

1:55.5

connecting. But what if your desire is a little more taboo?

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